Letting yourself Truly fail is easy. You may not feel True Failure, or it may actually feel pleasurable. True failure happens when you avoid the things that you have to do. When you fail to act. When you fail to do the thing that scares you. When you fail to make a change. True failure feels like the daily grind, the unmemorable day. The repetitive tasks. Watching TV. Collecting knowledge without doing anything. Failure is ignoring your blog, or letting your podcast die, or skipping your daily practice. Failure is not putting yourself on the line. Not reaching out. Not making that phone call. Failure is telling yourself you will do it tomorrow. Or that you don’t have time right now. Or that you don’t feel like it right now. Failure is deceptive and sneaky and pleasurable. Don’t be fooled.
Instead, try choosing success:
Success hurts. It makes your heart pound. It makes you sweat. It feels hard and painful for the moment. It feels like fear. It feels annoying like shutting down the TV. Or refusing to go for a beer. It feels scary like when you put yourself ‘out there’. When you call someone you don’t know. When you ask for something. When you hire someone. When you ask for mentorship. When you take a risk. When you are out of your league.
Accept the Fear. Accept that you will be afraid. You will feel like a fraud. You will be uncomfortable. You won’t feel like doing it, and there is no good time to do it. But it must be done. It must be done. You must be the person to do it. You have to do it. You soul is telling you to do it. It will change your life. It will make your life better. It will make you better. Make yourself do those things. Sacrifice pleasure. Your Future-Self will thank you. Your Soul will thank you. You won’t have regret. You will feel proud. You will have created change. Choose to knuckle down and make yourself do it, embrace the pain, and you will have succeeded today.